Role of a Husband

  Man,  Be Christ-like?


Marriage is an important aspect of our Life. God designed marriage and of all the creation that He made, He said It is " Very good".

God who is the inventor of marriage,  gave us the manual ( The Bible), as to how this marriage is to be 'maintained.'' Many, are ignorant that God has given instructions about "Marriage Covenant ".   

It is good that there are churches that emphasize the need of counseling before marriage, in fact, some churches has made it so compulsory that no marriage is conducted without counseling.

whereas some become interested in the manual when they find that " Marriage is on fire.". Anyway, Better late than never.

If we continue to Abide by His word that God has given, surely we will conclude that Marriage is Good, Life is Good.




 Husband's Role :

Husband - head of the house.

Someone well pointed out that the inscription on some people's door which reads ' Christ is the Head of this house ' is unscriptural, since the Bible says that man is the "head" ( of the house - eph 5:23). Therefore God has ordained him to lead, guide, provide, protect the family and love his wife, 


Love Your wife

Husbands are instructed to Love their wives, just as Christ loved the church. ( Eph 5:28 ).

How does Christ love the Church ( His people ). He is patient, kind, longsuffering, does not keep account of wrongs, faithful, etc.

Hence the standard for the husband is quite a high standard, he needs to take heed to God's requirement, his calling is 'to love his wife just as Christ loved the church and to give himself ( involves sacrifices ) for her. ( Eph 5:25 )


Love your wife as you would love your own body.

Another instruction for the husband, in the book of Ephesians is that the Husband should love his wife, as he would love his own body. ( Eph 5:33) That means the one who loves his wife is the one who loves his own body. Therefore the child of God is instructed not to abuse his wife nor take advantage of his position, being the head of the house.

The husband is called the 'head of the house' not a dictator of the house.

The husband must know that his wife is a part of his body ( Gen 2:23) hence no one harms his own body. One who harms his wife harms himself.

Oneness

Husbands must recognise that he is now one with his wife, they are no longer two but one. ( Gen 2:24 ) A detachment need not necessarily means a change of location from the parents but a change of priority, he must continue to honor his parents and provide for them in their old age. Staying separately also is not unscriptural. 


Beware of bitterness.

Someone well pointed out that Marriage is the union of two imperfect beings.

As none are perfect, each one is bound to make mistakes, in word and deed.

What is your response then.? Our response will determine whether we are going to be happy or not. If we react rightly we will be able to maintain the peace that the Lord has given us ( Matt 11: 28, 29).


Instruction and warning to the Husband.

In the same way, you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God's unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise, you cannot pray effectively.] 1 Peter 3:7 AMPC

Therefore it is impossible for a man to grow spiritually, who disrespects his wife. 

Beware of making jokes about your wife and publicly humiliating her.



Railguard - safeguard

  • Don't try to work on your spouse's role.
  • Don't waste your entire life to perfect your spouse, seek to be a good role model yourself
  • Love your wife.  
  • Spend quality time with your wife. ( 1 Cor 7:3- 5)
  • Continue to live with your wife, even if she is an unbeliever ( 1 cor 7:13 )
  • One who is faithful to God remains faithful to the Spouse.
  • One who says ' I am faithful to Jesus' but is not faithful to his wife, is a liar. ( 1 John 2:4 ).
  • One who points out a fault in the spouse but has the same fault in one's self is a Hypocrite. ( Matt 7:3 to 5 )
  • Take the help of the High priest: Jesus, He can help in all your situations.( Heb 2:18).
  • Take the advice of Godly people, whenever needed.
  • Don't treat your wife as your servant.
  • don't blame her when you cannot find things in the house. ( A common habit of the Indian husband).
  • Be a spouse who recognizes their "own need of forgiveness" therefore you will  find it easy to forgive your spouse
  • You may have been married, when you were an unbeliever, remember God has been there with you since you were chosen before the world was made. (Therefore don't think that you made mistake, while you were not in the Lord.)