Role of a Wife.

 Family matters.

Role of a wife 

Someone said marriage is like two people riding a horse. Depends: who is leading the horse.

God decided that "Man is the head of his wife ". This may not be well digested by a woman, who holds the world views.




The wife is called upon to submit ( Honor and respect )to her husband. (Eph 5:22 , Col 3:18 ,1 Tim 2:11, 1 pet 3:1).

In the present age, this sounds to be an abomination in the sight of the world. 


Two main reasons 

Most of the Marriages break or fall apart for primarily two reasons (though there are others ).

Immorality on part of the husband ( mostly ).

Rebellious attitude of the wife ( wanting to dominate and rule ( " head the house").  


Sarah: Role Model 

Sarah is quoted in the scriptures as a submissive wife. ( 1 pet 3:6 ).The husband being the head of the house does not mean that the wife cannot advise the husband. Sarah gave good advice to her husband to put away Hagar ( God backed it up ).

 A meek and submissive spirit is precious in the sight of the lord. ( 1 pet 3:4 ).


I will submit to Jesus but not to my husband

There are sisters in the Lord, who may say: I will submit to Jesus but I will not submit to my husband.

How can a person submit to the one she cannot see, if she cannot submit to the one she can see.?


Conditional submissiveness

Perhaps someone may say " Look my husband is lacking in so many virtues " How can I be submissive to Him. ". 

The Bible tells us to submit even to the employer who is harsh (1 pet 2:13 ).

Just like the husband is commanded to love his wife ( unconditionally ).

Likewise, the wives have been told to submit ( unconditionally ).

So many Marriages can be saved, where both the spouses acknowledge that each one is not perfect and hence cannot demand perfection from the other.


Remember Daniels friends 

What if you are advised by your spouse to disobey the word of God.?

Here we need to know that we need to submit to ( authority: Govt/employer/husband) but if they tell us to do contrary to the written word of God then we need to choose obedience to God.( Acts 28:29, Dan 3:18).


Railguard - safeguard

  • Don't try to work on your spouse's role.
  • Don't waste your entire life to perfect your spouse, seek to be a good role model yourself
  • Love your husband. ( Tit 2:4 ).
  • Spend quality time with your husband ( 1 Cor 7:3- 5)
  • Continue to live with your husband even if he is an unbeliever ( 1 cor 7:13 ).
  • Stand firm in your belief and yet have a submissive spirit.
  • One who is faithful to God remains faithful to the Spouse.
  • One who says ' I am faithful to Jesus' but shows no faithfulness to the spouse, is a liar. ( 1 John 2:4 ).
  • One who points out a fault in the spouse but has the same fault in one's self is a Hypocrite. ( Matt 7:3 to 5 )
  • Take the help of the High priest: Jesus, He can help in all your situations.( Heb 2:18).
  • Take the advice of Godly people, whenever needed ( one who can keep things confidential and not pass on information as a 'prayer point'.)
  • Be a spouse who recognizes their "own need of forgiveness" therefore they find it easy to forgive their spouse.
  • " Marriages are made in Heaven but worked out on planet earth ".
  • You may have been married, when you were an unbeliever, remember God has been there with you since you were chosen before the world was made.
  • Therefore don't think that you made mistake, while you were not in the Lord.